People come and go. That’s life. I realized that. Sometimes it’s a slow process that friendships are drifting apart. It’s not a sudden decision. There’s no fight or argument. Just different interests, personal developments and a different way of living. No aligning anymore. But that’s okay.
When one person doesn’t feel the urge to make the move anymore and contact (texting or phoning), it should not be forced. Sometimes it’s also only a phase. You grow together, you grow apart and then you grow together again. But everything in flow.
Friendships can also change: from strong friendships to being acquaintances. And there’s nothing wrong with it either.
I just realized that we probably have friends for different stages in our life. And that’s totally okay. Then I asked myself: But how can this be transferred to romantic relationships? Some people also believe in the concept of having different romantic partners for different stages in our life. And I think for some people it works out too.
Every soul path is different
I came to the solution that there is not one single concept that works for everyone. We are all different. All on a different soul path. On a different level of our soul’s evolution. [That requires that you believe in reincarnation and being not here on Earth for the first time – my opinion]
Some people are “lucky” and only have one romantic partner that they grow old with. Some others have multiple ones – each one for a different stage in life. To learn and to grow. Both is alright. There is no right and wrong.
Maybe it’s destiny, what’s destined for us?
Do we choose it? I don’t know.
Maybe we never know. And we should see life as a giant playground, enjoying and making experiences as we grow.
“Best friends”
Some people are “lucky” and have their one very best friend: starting from birth or kindergarten. You go (and grow) through thick and thin together. Some others have many “best” friends. Sometimes many very good friends all at once and sometimes a best friend for a different stage in life.
I also don’t like labeling the word “best friend” anymore – I stopped doing that in university, I think. Because for me – unlike being in a romantic relationship – friendship isn’t something “exclusive” – you can have many very good friends at the same time. Yes, with romantic partners it can be the same but that’s not what I prefer.) With friendship there is less pressure I feel. It’s more like flowing. Being happy where I am, with the people I’m surrounded by. And when I miss a friend, I call or text them.
I think it’s not necessary to stay in contact each and every day to “make a friendship work”. There are friends that I see very rarely. But we are connected. On a soul level. No matter where they are in the world. Everybody’s doing their life and when it fits we are reunited again. And then there are friends that I used to be in contact almost everyday but there wasn’t a real depth. I only found out later, when I knew what real, authentic deep connections are.
It’s so important to be careful and attentive who we’re giving our energy to. Energy is so so important (also while manifesting!). If you feel drained after call or spending time with that person… that’s a sign. Listen to that. If you feel happy and energized, that’s a sign too.
I feel like I’m learning everyday.
And especially on this full moon in Sagittarius I realized that going with the flow of life brings us most contentment.
Thoughts on unconditional love
One last thing I wanted to add: When you think: But is it even possible to love one person romantically for your whole life? Does it ever get bored or will the love diminish? Is it possible to commit to one person in this physical life?
I oftentimes think about my mom. Although it’s of course not a romantic relationship, she’s the mom I would choose again and again. In this and in every other life time. I love her with all of my heart and yes, there can be a few challenges but that’s the flow of life. I couldn’t imagine having another mother. It’s okay that there are phases in life where we are closer and then phases where everyone focuses more on their own life. But we will always love each other.
So when I’m thinking, is it possible to love another human being for your whole life? I think yes. It’s possible. Platonically and also romantically.
I’d like to hear your thoughts about it. What comes up in your mind? Do you have a similar view? Do you have another point of view?
Sending you love and light
palmtrees and sunshine 